Children caught up in a divorce are under a lot of stress. They may experience anxiety and confusion when you and your spouse decide to end the relationship. While a divorce may be beneficial to the whole family, you have to remember that it is going to be a rough transition for your kids.
According to NBC, nesting is one method that parents use to keep the family home intact for the children.
Sharing the family home
Generally, during a divorce, you and your ex decide who keeps the house. Often, the custodial parent keeps the family home. However, when you are nesting, it is the kids who technically remain residents of the home. Instead of the children going back and forth between the parents’ home, you and your spouse will trade places.
Kids already have a difficult time adjusting to the idea that their parents will no longer be married. When you nest, your children can stay in a familiar environment. Their sense of home does not change and neither does their rules. Their routine should remain similar to how it was before.
Rotating the second home
Between you and your former spouse, decide whether you want to share a second home or if you both want your places individually. You do not reside in the home at the same time. When your ex is with the children, you will stay in the second home. This should only last a few months but no longer than six months. Any longer and kids may become confused or think that you and your spouse could get back together.
Nesting is a method that eases the transitional period for your children following a divorce.