The most common variety of child custody after divorce is co-parenting. This is because co-parenting has the most benefits for children in most instances. Assuming that neither of the parents have a history of abuse or addiction, children benefit with both parents involved in their lives.
However, co-parenting can be very challenging for multiple reasons. Shuttling the children between two different houses can be very stressful and not financially possible for some families. This is why nesting has become a popular alternative option for families who co-parent. According to Psychology Today, nesting is when the children stay in one house and the parents rotate in and out depending on the custody arrangement.
What are the benefits of nesting?
In some instances, nesting can help keep the child’s life as uninterrupted as possible during the divorce. Instead of both parents being in the house at one time, only one parent will be. While this is a difference, it is less of a disruption as compared to moving the child between two separate residences.
Additionally, if the parents as single entities will not be able to maintain a household in a high cost of living area, nesting can allow the children to stay in the same school district with the same friends.
What are the negatives?
Co-parenting can be difficult in the best of situations, but effective nesting requires extremely good communication between the parents. If you and your ex-spouse have an acrimonious relationship, nesting may not be possible. Additionally, it is likely that the parents will wish to establish their own separate residences at some point: nesting tends to be a temporary arrangement. However, nesting can help a child adjust to post-divorce life.